Perez Hilton really made me stop and think the other day. He posted a story called, “Is Gossip Girl Glamourizing An Abusive Relationship?” After reading this and watching last week’s episode, my love for Chuck Bass is gone. While this is TV — and it’s not real — I think I got so caught up in the alternate reality of Gossip Girl that I never stopped and thought “Wait, why do Chuck and Blair belong together again?”After all, isn’t he the worst boyfriend ever?
GG Producer Josh Safran said, “They have a volatile relationship, they always have, but I do not believe—or I should say we do not believe—that it is abuse when it’s the two of them. Chuck does not try to hurt Blair. He punches the glass because he has rage, but he has never, and will never, hurt Blair.”
Hasn’t he though? He’s emotionally tortured her for years! He’s manipulated her, sold her, embarrassed her, forced himself on her and stopped her from dating other people. Perez Hilton points out the following:
“According to signs of an abusive relationship:
“Does your partner see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?”
Last season, he not only traded HER BODY to his uncle for a hotel, but then blamed her by saying it was her choice to go. Check.
“Does your partner act excessively jealous and possessive?”
“You’ll never marry anyone else. You’re mine! You’re mine, Blair!” Enough said. Check.
“Your abuser may use a variety of intimidation tactics designed to scare you into submission. Such tactics include making threatening looks or gestures, smashing things in front of you, destroying property…”
The video above. Check.”
The video is of Chuck and Blair at the end of “The Princess and The Frog.” Hilton even points out similarities in their relationship to the relationship of Sammi and Ron on Jersey Shore.
The interesting thing is all the comments for Perez’s post are filled with fans yelling at him for this, claiming he has no right to judge anything, etc. And that’s interesting to me because it seems like he brought up a truth that Gossip Girl fans don’t want to acknowledge.
We loved the dirty, manipulative relationship Chuck and Blair shared in high school. And the way they both made each other better. But then something happened — they’ve only hurt each other since Blair first started college. Every time they get together, they’re ripped apart again and again — because Chuck SELLS his girlfriend like property! — and for some weird reason we still want them together.
Now I know I said I hated the Dan/Blair relationship — and I still do — but wouldn’t Humphrey be a better boyfriend for our poor Miss Blair? Wouldn’t the Prince who wants her to be happy be better? Why do we root for her to end up with a terrible partner? Are we still hoping she’ll fix him, because truth is she can’t fix this man. He wants to posses her.
Are we as GG fans able to acknowledge the sad truth: that Chuck and Blair’s relationship is unhealthy and abusive? That Chuck Bass is an abuser? And worst yet, that the writers are trying to make us want the abuse to continue?
Can I continue to watch GG (which I rarely do) and root for Chuck and Blair to be together (as we all know they will be)? No. Even in the totally unrealistic alternate reality of the Gossip Girl universe where teenagers can banish teenagers from New York City, now that someone has made me acknowledge the truth about Chuck and Blair, my love affair with “Chuck and Blair: The Couple” is dead. It’s just not healthy.
Do you think Chuck and Blair’s relationship is abusive? Should we care since it’s a fictional TV show? Are you reconsidering your love for Chair? Tell me in the comments!